New Year"s Resolutions
by Connie H. Deutsch
The New Year is almost upon us and I can hear people making their New Year's resolutions. I have always wondered why they don't make these changes when they feel the need to change something that's causing them unhappiness. And, more important, why do they need resolutions? Why don't they just do it when they realize what it is that's interfering with their happiness?
And the odd thing about this is that they may be waiting several months for the beginning of the year to do what they are going to resolve to do, and then, a few short months later, if it's even that long, they go back to their old ways.
If you're going to go on a diet, the sensible thing to do is to use up all the forbidden foods before the end of the year so you can start your diet on January 1st. And many people do just that, and then when January 3rd rolls around, they are feeling so deprived they go out and buy everything fattening they can lay their hands on.
The same thing with cigarettes. If they intend to stop smoking, they often puff their way into a chain smoker's cough, as if the memory of that cough will dull the desire for one more cigarette. It doesn't, of course. After the lungs have rested a day, the desire is back more fiercely than before.
These are the obvious resolutions that people make; the less obvious ones are about their spending habits or keeping their records up to date. No one can see those habits so they can be hidden from prying eyes and, unless you tell people that you are going to make a resolution to spend within your means, and not a dime more, no one will be the wiser.
Then there are the people who get overwhelmed at tax time and every year they resolve to keep their records up to date so they can turn everything over to their accountant or do their own taxes long before filing date. But do they? Maybe for a month or two, but after that, it's back to business as usual and feeling very stressed out as it gets closer to April 15th.
I realize the psychology behind wanting to get a fresh start on the new year, but you'll be happier if you don't start each year by disappointing yourself.